Here Are the Best 5 Books to Read When You Feel Heartbroken
Heartache. Lovesick. Broken heart. Anyone that has suffered through a breakup will attest that the intense pain of a failed relationship can be. "The half-life of love is forever," or so Junot Díaz famously wrote in This Is How You Lose Her. (That book isn't on this list, because who wants to. Only three of the books I recommended to her (and now to you) are "how a good book reference, or the dissolution of a romantic relationship.
Only three of the books I recommended to her and now to you are "how to get over a breakup" books. The other four contain life-altering wisdom or inspiration that can be even more useful than specific techniques to ex your ex. Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. If you need to flag this entry as abusive, send us an email.
A friend recently asked me to recommend some books to help her friend get over a breakup. To both of our surprises, I couldn't give her any suggestions because, well, I didn't have any. I'm a clinical psychologist in full-time private practice in New York City. People often ask me to recommend shrinks, opine on new therapies, or to suggest appropriate books.
5 books you should read after a breakup to help heal your broken heart
In this case, however, I didn't have one. All of my friends, colleagues, and patients know that one of the things I revere is failure.
Failure, in any context, including not having a good book reference, or the dissolution of a romantic relationship provides you with an opportunity for improvement. My failure to respond to my friend's request showed me that I had not done appropriate research in this area. I used this as an opportunity for learning and handed her this list a few weeks ago.
Some of the titles I suggest will surprise you. Judging from the overwhelming response I got the last time I made a list of books for meaningful change, it seems that these reviews are helpful, which I hope is the case here. So, without further ado, here is my list of the seven best books for breakups: The Breakup Bible a novel by Melissa Kantor The Breakup Bible is the best book I have found for helping people, especially girls, getting through their first heartbreak.
It is about a high school junior, Jen, whose boyfriend, Max, suddenly tells her that he wants to be friends. Jen can't imagine how she will deal with seeing Max in school after they break up, let alone work with him on the school paper. Jen is initially skeptical about the advice contained in "The Breakup Bible" given to her by her grandmother, and yet the process Jen goes through throughout the novel book feels real, touching and, ultimately healing.
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle Three failed relationships in as many years are more likely to force you into awakening than three years on a desert island or shut away in your room. This book was also on my last listand with good reason. The Power of Now is one of the books that has changed my life and speaks to me a spiritual level. In this book, spiritual leader Eckhart Tolle explains the often misunderstood concept of being in the now in a way that is useful and practical. This is an essential concept for well-being and is particualtly helpful when your heart is in a dark place.
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Although they are both good, they are vastly different. Unlike the novel, this book is really aimed at adults and is an invaluable guide for helping people, especially women, move through Sussman's three phases of healing from a breakup: What I like best about this book is that in addition to the thoughtful and empathic way that Sussman writes, there's lots of solid advice from women at each step of the process.
The Smart Woman's Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce is particularly good for women emerging from a divorce, as it explains how the dissolution of a relationship makes you stronger.
Here Are the Best 5 Books to Read When You Feel Heartbroken
Instead of a Letter: Instead of a Letter tells how he broke off the engagement — he abruptly stopped writing to her, then two years later she received a curt note asking her to release him from the engagement so he could marry someone else. Paul died overseas before she could confront or forgive him. In a sense, this is a memoir about hanging on when all is lost.
Athill writes elegantly about the shabby gentility of her childhood and her later career as a literary editor, but the drama here is in her frankness about the struggle to rebuild a personality taken apart by sadness. Top 10 failed romances in fiction Read more 2. Solitude by Anthony Storr Did Beethoven compose great works before snuggling up in happy coupledom?
While the world harps on about relationships being the key to happiness, psychiatrist Storr argues in this very kindly work that we pay far too little attention to some of the other great satisfactions of life — work and creativity. This book is a rallying cry for the irascible, lonely curmudgeons.
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We have stuff going for us too, says Storr, with much reference to psychoanalytic theory, and the twin human instincts — outward towards attachment yes, but also inward towards self-sufficiency and the kind of contemplation that can only happen when we are alone.
It has all the grip of a psychological thriller, but the writing is drenched in loss and absence. The ambivalence on every page is doleful and humorous and real. Noting that men are like bloody buses, she writes: You look at them flashing their indicators, Offering you a ride.
Rush descends into a desperate decline, in which he loses his connection to life, to literature and to himself. This account of a journey into the Cevennes, in the footsteps of Robert Louis Stevenson, takes him towards recovery and a realisation that the world still has riches to offer.
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The Days of Abandonment by Elena Ferrante A novel about the derangement provoked by abandonment — not a sanitised kind of madness, but the real, dark thing. The late Canadian novelist specialised in lonely misfits and the ordinary difficulties of human relationships. Like Solitude, its subject is the process of writing itself and of grief turning inward.